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Leading well under pressure.

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Choosing to remove internal pressure and perfectionism – Ben’s experience

Ben’s life was going well – he had his business, a lovely young family, they’d just moved to their dream location. He wasn’t in any kind of crisis. But he…

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Great leaders are like valves

I heard this brilliant analogy for great leadership: Great leaders are like valves – not open taps. They hear and consider the input from external pressure sources, then consciously choose…

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Signs of internal pressure problems

How do you know you’ve got internal pressure problems? Simple. Internal pressure feels bad. Period. Forget that people will tell you ‘it’s normal’. Drop the idea ‘of course I feel…

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Stressed? Release the pressure here.

Dear John, I’ve seen how busy you are. I expect you’re dealing with a stream of questions from staff, continuing to improve behind-the-scenes systems, and also maintaining your own customer…

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Great leaders respond instead of react

We all react sometimes. But if you’re reacting consistently. If you can’t let go and move on. If you’re hard on yourself because of all that – you’re in the…

Great leaders maintain presence in turbulent times

No matter the level of external turbulence, great leaders hold the pressure and continue to lead. Not through gritted teeth and forced effort. Through grounded presence. Amidst global turbulence, the…

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Every problem you have is the drama triangle

If you’re blaming anyone, or anything – you’re in victim mode. And that can be a spicy recognition! The ‘victim’ topic I wrote about last week…how does it land for…

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Are you blaming the world?

Are you blaming your team, the economy, the government… ? Justifying feeling stressed, when it’s actually time to take responsibility. I posted recently about the way that we love to…

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Signs you’re not operating at your best

It’s easy to continue powering on through, even when things feel a bit sh!t. But the truth is, you don’t have to. And everything gets better with that interference removed.…

Why Great Leaders Don’t Need to Belong

Great leaders navigate a unique role, and inner-security is essential. I reckon everybody has a desire to be part of a pack of some kind. The more secure you are…

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End overthinking by tackling its root cause

Overthinking is now shared so readily as a problem that most people believe ‘it’s just how some of us humans work’. That you have to learn to live with it.…

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Quit Fixing Feelings – Clear Reactions

“Feelings don’t need solutions” It was a pivotal moment for me back in 2018 when Piers Thurston first enlightened me of this fact – feelings don’t need solutions. But it…

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Get Your Emotional Code Running Smoothly

Your human system works perfectly! We had our neighbours round yesterday. One of them’s a doctor. He was telling us that about 90% of Achilles injuries are now left to…

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Body Truth: For Strategic Advantage

The body doesn’t lie. Trust the body over any cognitive rationale. When you’re carrying negative reactions, the body literally cannot BS you. It shows you – 100% reliably – when…

When you’re delivering big

Whether it’s a big project…a culture change…stepping into your next-level role….preparing to speak on your biggest stage yet…setting yourself up for a successful exit. These big moves test you. They’re meant…

In The Business of Healthy Masculinity

There are two ways change happens… 1. You keep pushing on through, ignoring the fact it’s getting worse, using more control to try and get back on track, till you…

Are You A Stressed High-Achiever?

From frantic, hectic, and stressed to spacious, calm and clear. If you’re a high achiever, you might have noticed that as soon as you ‘block time in the calendar’ to…

Why You Should Stop Talking And Start Solving

How to know if talking about your problems isn’t solving them… Would you dig up a weed from your garden by standing around talking about the weed? No. You’d get…

This Is What I’m Leading For

Imagine a world where we’re led by leaders who have risen above playground name-calling and judgements… who lead with action more than they speak in rhetoric… who have stepped out…

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Men – please don’t follow women down the healing route

Conscious men are – brilliantly – increasing in numbers. But I’m concerned they’re following women into a world of ‘healing’ that doesn’t solve their problems. Only wraps them in nicer…

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