Real happiness

When life still isn’t how you thought it would be by now, when happiness still seems elusive, or just when real happiness sounds like something you’re ready for, this is for you.

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Photo by Federico Respini on Unsplash

I used to run happiness workshops. I would teach people the difference between hedonistic happiness (the short-lived-hit type of happiness) and eudaimonic happiness (lasting wellbeing, contentment and fulfillment). Then I would teach them a bunch of things they could do to shift into eudaimonic. The kinds of things that Action for Happiness might suggest. Nothing wrong with these, perfect for that point in the journey and this isn’t all there is to it. read more

I said the wrong thing

This week’s experience of what could be counted as ‘saying the wrong thing’ gained alot of interest in my weekly newsletter. Have a read and see what you think. And if you want to subscribe to get this kind of content each week, the link’s at the bottom.

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Real security

Life is full of people telling us how to be more secure- own your own home, get life insurance, have a pension, marry someone, earn enough money… How’s it working out for you? Feeling more secure? If not, here’s why.

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Photo by Marc A. Sporys on Unsplash

When I got married I felt really secure. I thought, wow! This marriage thing is really cool after-all (I’d always been a bit scared of marriage after watching my parents’ one crash and burn). I feel so different, so secure, so calm.  read more

When we know better, we do better

I heard this phrase from Oprah Winfrey, who heard it from her mentor, who no doubt heard it from someone in her life. It’s stayed with me ever since and then it came up in an exploration with a client this week. This is what we noticed.

"When we know better, we do better" Oprah Winfrey.

In my work, I explore with clients what might seem ethereal and intangible. We talk about the nature of reality, we explore who we really are behind the ideas of who we think we are. We work way upstream, before thought, in the empty but alive and rich space from which all thoughts, all ideas, all freshness comes. read more

Advice: recycled wisdom or get your own, fresh?

I was on Hung Lee’s Recruiting Brainfood on Friday lunchtime — loved it! — and at the end we were invited to share practical tips for mental wellbeing, at this time of ‘unprecedented change’! I felt resistance to the idea of giving tips and here’s why.

Scrabble pieces spelling tips and tricks next to air pods
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We all have a fresh, bubbling source of creativity, fresh thinking and ideas available to us every single moment of every single day.

You’ll have had these. The shower moments when the lightbulb appears. The walk when everything becomes clear. The pits of frustration or sadness and even depression when a fresh thought strikes like a bolt of lightning. read more