What are you resisting?

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We get lost in ideas that we fix as facts and truths. Resisting reality. It’s uncomfortable — thankfully — because then we have a chance to see through the illusion.

What are you fixing as true, definite or absolute?

Is it the ‘fact’ that person’s really annoying? Is it the ‘fact’ you’re no good at X, Y or Z? Is it the ‘fact’ that nobody ever gets work done to the standards you think they should?

These are not facts. These are ideas. Momentary ideas. Fleeting, passing, transient. One tiny moment of experience. Now. 

If it’s an idea you’re familiar with, the mind might grab hold of it and scan the environment to match it to the world ‘out there’. Given that Thought always creates reality moment to moment, it will find something in the world to match it to — it’s designed to.

Once a match is found it will say ‘it’s true, it’s a fact, a solid, definite fact’ — it WAS that person’s poor performance, they really aren’t capable. I was right. I knew it! And just to really prove I’m right, I’ll now find more evidence.

With a ‘they’re not capable’ tractor beam in place, evidence to confirm the ‘fact’ will be found. Nothing contrary will be allowed in. The illusion held steady.

But it’s not steady. Like a person standing in a rushing river, the constant movement of life will buffet your legs, knock you sideways, keep you desperately trying to stand straight in its wobble-inducing power.

The perfect design. 

Because eventually the ‘I know’ mind gives up, it drops into the water, tired of fighting the flow. Now something fresh and new is seen as the ‘fact’ washes away downstream in the torrent of other information that was always available. Information about you and about them and about the world.

Now you’re free in the flow to respond to what’s actually happening ‘now’. Free of the limiting illusion that there was a solid, fixed ‘fact’ in play. There never was, there never is.

So pause. Look for contrary evidence. Keep your eyes peeled for information that goes against what you believe.

When has that person actually been kind or funny or caring? 

Where have you done X, Y AND Z? 

When has that person done a great piece of work?

Test it. The water’s safe.

With love, Helen

I work with people who want a quieter mind and a more fulfilling life. They’re smart, passionate people who are curious about there being a better way. They’ve worked hard to get to here and yet something’s still missing: ‘is this it?’. In our work we explore and reconnect to innate brilliance so they rediscover a quieter mind, fulfillment and balance. Find out more here.

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