Ben’s life was going well – he had his business, a lovely young family, they’d just moved to their dream location. He wasn’t in any kind of crisis. But he also knew things could be better. He wanted to optimise his life.
He lived with internal pressure to be perfect and he saw how this caused him to work so hard to try and avoid any pitfalls or failures. He had a barrier in relationships with others, trying to be who he thought they wanted him to be. And although he understood all of this logically, he knew it wasn’t helping him, and he couldn’t stop it or change it.
He wanted to optimise his internal world, knowing this is essential to optimising his external world.
Here’s what Ben said…
Before working with Helen I was highly functional – business was going well, life was good – but there were things that had been there for years that I couldn’t shift. There was a lot of internal pressure. I was also carrying some deeper guilt from childhood – things I understood intellectually but still felt viscerally.
Now, those things just aren’t there in the same way. The perfectionism that used to drive how I showed up has dropped away. I speak more freely, I’m more present, and I’m barely thinking about how I’m coming across. The barrier that was there has either vanished or reduced to the point it’s not a bother anymore.
I’d done a lot of cognitive, top-down work before but this was much more bottom-up. It wasn’t about understanding anything intellectually. It was a process-based experience. You don’t need to analyse or figure anything out. You just stay present, follow the process, and engage with what’s happening.
What stood out to me is that it felt like an unblocking. Not an insight, not a new belief, but something actually shifting at a deeper level where the emotional charge just isn’t there anymore. This process does require focus, trust and engagement – but when you do that, the change happens very quickly.
Helen was very warmly recommended to me, which is why I trusted the process from the start. She’s very good at helping you identify what actually matters – what’s really bothering you underneath everything. She’s very skilled at guiding you through a process that you couldn’t do on your own.
Ben
Now three options for you
- If you want to optimise your life like Ben, use this short questionnaire to check we’re a good match
- If you want to find out about the 4-week transformation programme Ben experienced – Founders Reset.
- If you want to hear more from Ben first, watch this conversation where Ben generously talks about this experience.