Overthinking is now shared so readily as a problem that most people believe ‘it’s just how some of us humans work’. That you have to learn to live with it. But you don’t. Overthinking – and more specifically – the feeling that comes with overthinking – is the problem. Deal with the root cause, and you’re back in charge. Unaffected by thoughts.
Overthinking is your system telling you there’s something wrong.
It is not natural.
Normal? – Sadly, yes.
But not natural.
What most people are doing.
Most people try to solve this problem by distracting themselves, soothing themselves, or contorting themselves into all sorts of systems, approaches and tactics. Anything to get free from the problem.
And yet they don’t get free. They get bogged down in time-consuming activities that – yes, temporarily – give them the space and clarity to take a next step.
But then the overthinking is back again. They feel bogged down, weighed down, cluttered, heavy. (I know – because I was suffering with overthinking and I tried all the solutions!)
So if you’re…
- Going to time-consuming lengths of practices and rituals to settle yourself down and check in with your inner wisdom.
- Having to pause and journal to ask yourself questions and tap into your deeper knowing.
- Trying to feel your expanded self to escape the overthinking.
- Catching yourself in the clutter of overthinking, pausing and breathing and other such things to temporarily distract yourself from overthinking….
It does get to be easier, and faster.
What my clients are doing…
My clients are simply removing the source of overthinking so it doesn’t happen. Or at the very least – they’re unaffected by the thoughts.
After that, you may or may not utilise any of those tools or tactics, as and when they’re useful.
But you won’t *need* them to function effectively in the world.
You won’t *need* them to remove the horrible feeling that comes with overthinking.
In the absence of constant overthinking, you are back in charge. You get to choose whether to put your attention on thinking or on something else.
You are naturally unaffected by thoughts.
Remove the source of overthinking and you return to that state.
Overthinking is an alarm bell to tell you something’s wrong.
Don’t just sticky plaster it.
Deal with the source problem.
Then you get to crack on with living your life.
Message me when you want this.
Revealing the real you, Helen
When you’re ready to get your emotional code running smoothly again – start here.
Not sure? Complete the quick online assessment.
Not ready yet? Subscribe on YouTube and/or the newsletter.
Want to connect on socials? Find me on LinkedIn.
[Image credit: Andrej Lisakov via Unsplash]