I wrote this piece in the context of world wars, a politician being shot, and increasing division between ‘them’ and ‘us.
Walking on eggshells feels limiting to you. And limits others.
When you start to think you can’t voice your opinion, it’s game over.
This has always happened within households. In work teams. And now we’re seeing it play out on the world stage.
Do you want to be part of that dynamic of eggshells and cancellations?
Or do you want to be part of the solution?
I’m in love with the possibility of getting everyone back in charge of their own lives and dreams. Empowered and responsible for their own experience.
And that requires removal of the BS in the system – in your system – that says you can’t speak up.
My Client Was In Eggshell Land
Having been a director for many years, you’d think confidence was a given. But this leader, like many others, wasn’t feeling confident when he arrived.
He’d noticed all these places where he was holding back on what he really thought and it was causing him problems. It was fine where he was the boss. But in other contexts he wouldn’t push back, he wouldn’t challenge and he wouldn’t say what he was concerned about.
He would just go along with it, seemingly interested. Paying attention to their needs way above his own.
Of course this meant people thought he was fully on board. But he wasn’t. Which meant that when he didn’t follow through on his commitments, they got frustrated.
He was fed up not expressing his view. But he felt scared to do that.
What he wanted was to have the courage to challenge. To be prepared to create some boundaries. And stand by them. Rather than being pushed around in the breeze.
He was done with this apathy and letting people walk all over him.
After the 2-hour deep dive Foundations session he told me…
“I’ve had this feeling of confidence and grounded-ness. I’ve been more assertive and people have noticed – in a positive way.”
A few weeks later, he got in touch…
“Something’s shifted since we worked together. I’m really grateful for it.
I feel more confident and clearer.
I’m being more decisive and less fearful.
Thank you for this important work.”
Notice the simplicity of the words. That’s the kind of clarity and simplicity when you’re no longer full of emotional clutter.
I look forward to working with you for your confidence and clarity.
For your voice.
When you’re ready to own your voice – start by strengthening your Foundations Here.
Revealing the real you, Helen
What’s the risk of doing nothing?
Fundamentally – it will get worse.
I don’t say that to scare you. It’s just a fact.
Even if you try to suppress it and pretend you’re OK. It will get worse.
Which means you’ll either break (mentally, emotionally or physically).
Or you’ll use need to keep stronger coping mechanisms. (More drink or food or supplements or ‘performance drinks’. More escaping into meditation. More exercise…)
Some of those coping mechanisms might sound ‘good for you’. But nothing is good for you when it’s being done to disguise a toxic threat response.
You’ll know you’re ready for this when…
- You are done with your problem.
- You want it to change.
That’s when you take action and Book Your Foundations.
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I work with high achieving leaders and entrepreneurs. They’re in the world: doing, achieving and creating. Everything looks good from the outside. But inside there’s self doubt, imposter syndrome, unworthiness.
- They feel the weight and pressure of holding so much for so many people.
- They feel frustrated when they know they shouldn’t.
- They feel stressed when they know it lowers their effectiveness and breaks their relationships.
- They feel unhappy and lacking, despite how much they have.
And they haven’t been able to change.
Until they come into my world and we use the Mace Energy Method to get them free.