Joy is an inherent part of who you are. And you don’t have to be absent of fear before realising that.
In my last post, I shared my realisation that we have been conditioned to believe that joy is something we must earn or deserve, and that we have come to fear it. But, my dear reader, I want you to remember that joy is an inherent part of who you are.
This profound realisation has been expanding within me, leading me to confront my own fear of joy and the vigilant stance I had unknowingly adopted against it. Let me explain why.
For some time, I was hesitant to fully embrace joy, fearing that it might be accompanied by a surge of ego. Over the past couple of years, I have cultivated a sense of inner calm and an ability to embrace all aspects of my experience. Still, there lingered a subtle wariness within me — a vigilance against both ego and joy.
I held the belief that experiencing joy could trigger my ego, leading to potential self-centeredness or a false sense of separation. I convinced myself that I needed to rid myself of all egoic conditioning before I could wholeheartedly invite joy into my life.
This fear of ego and the associated concerns began to seep into my work as well. I worried that if others embraced the good things in life, their egos might lead them astray or cause them harm. I was afraid they would be swept away by extravagant plans and desires which were tainted with the mind’s sense of lack and need. What if things went awry, or they ended up hurt or looking foolish?
However, I now see that these concerns mirrored my own inner struggles. It wasn’t wrong to acknowledge and be present with the fear-based conditioning within myself and my clients. It has been incredibly beneficial to approach this with love and compassion, holding it in the peaceful space of our true essence.
Yet, this new layer of understanding has recently unfolded before me.
I have come to realise that there is nothing to fear in allowing ego to surface as we move toward our desires and dreams. In fact, this journey towards joy illuminates ego’s presence, and that’s a wonderful thing! By embracing joy, we not only move heart-fully towards what we desire, but we also bring conditioning to the forefront, allowing it to be seen, loved, and included in the serene light of our true, peaceful selves.
As a result, I am shedding my fear of egoic patterns and releasing my trepidation surrounding the experience of joy.
Are you prepared to let go of your fear of joy? The time has come!
With peace, love and joy; Helen
I invite you to book a call with me to talk about how I can help you embark on a journey towards joy while embracing and loving your fears along the way.