Last week I attended the Barefoot Winter Conference at Prestwold Hall (beautiful location – and yes I’m slightly biased because it’s where I got married!). This post is a collation of my thoughts and reflections from the day which I know will help me learn and absorb, and which I hope will have some nuggets of interest and insight for you.
We moved house on Monday! We’ve been living with my mum for over 7 months – she’s definitely gone above and beyond the job description! Now that we have our own place again I popped to a large wholesale store yesterday to stock up on exciting things like kitchen towel and loo roll. This is the second big batch of kitchen towel I’ve bought in my life – 20 in a pack!! #awesome When I used to buy 2 or maybe 4 rolls at a time I would save it for real necessity, using it only when it really felt like the best thing to use. Otherwise reaching for a cloth. Since switching my shopping habits my attitude to kitchen-towel-use has changed*. There’s something about knowing you have a bountiful supply of absorbent paper available that makes you free and easy with its use. Split some milk there, no problem, let me wipe it with some kitchen towel. Red wine on the carpet, no worries, kitchen towel will soak that right up.
Think of yourself at work and how it feels right now.
If you imagine you’re in a box at work, what would that box be like?
Are you in a roomy box with space to spread yourself out and change position?
Are you cramped in a box that you feel you could burst out of any minute?
Do you remember once feeling like you could burst out and now you feel like you’ve shrunk to fit inside?
I’ve been really enjoying having some space to blog recently and I’ve written for a couple of people I guest blog for.
This one for The HR Director magazine which is about how we can get stuck in our emotions and thoughts, and how we can move out of that place.
And this one (the one I mis-posted a draft of the other week!) for Bray and Bray Solicitors about the challenging world of workplace relationships, and shifting those from the playground to an adult world.
First, some context and disclaimer stuff: I’m a working mum, I’m definitely not an employment law expert so apologies to anyone reading this who is. If you’re reading my blog for the first time, this isn’t my normal kind of content and you can read the other stuff I write here. For the purposes of this post I’m sticking with the stereotypical perspective of women as the main carers of kids, and who want to work part time to fulfil both roles.
How often have you seen or heard this?
They’re just no good at their job, I keep having to pick up the slack? I haven’t got time to do my own work because they’re incapable of doing their’s. If only they could sort it out we’d all be better off. I don’t even know why they’re still here – they don’t contribute anything.
A few weeks back I was feeling frustrated. I’m an independent person with a high achievement drive and these characteristics, which can be strengths, were holding me back – “I wish I could go to that event – but I can’t because I’ve been away quite alot recently and the kids need me here”….”I wish I could get half an hour to catch up on SoMe in the morning – but I can’t because I need to do breakfast and get the kids ready”…..”I wish I could exercise more – but I can’t because by the time I’ve got the kids to bed, had some tea, done some work or housework, there’s no time….” and so on.
I’m delighted to be hosting this piece for #FeedbackCarnival from Margaret Burnside. Margaret works as People Development Director at ERAS Ltd with a focus on developing leaders, both locally in East Anglia and nationally. Margaret has a passion for coaching and mentoring and here writes a practical guide to providing feedback to others in a way that is beneficial to the recipient.
I started writing a post on feedback the other week because it’s something that comes back again and again as something we all struggle to do. Even if we’re giving feedback about how great something’s been we can still feel awkward and not deliver it well – is that a British thing? And then there’s the feedback when we’ve spotted something that, if changed, could help someone improve in some way. The supposed ‘negative’ feedback.
“I’d like a Ferrari and a mansion without having to pay anything for them” was my son’s proclamation tonight which led on to his question of “why do we have money?”.
So I talked about how things evolved from bartering with goods, to coins and then the economy as we know it today (or at least in my simplistic understanding of it).