This MD of a small business was holding back, not standing up for himself, and then he would get frustrated that by doing this he’d caused more problems. For both himself and others. He needed this to change.
Measurable results
When asked: If 10 means ‘this is a really big problem’, and zero means ‘there’s no problem at all’, how big a problem is this for you right now?
Starting point – 7 out of 10
By week four – Zero out of 10
Context
MD of a small business with a strong track record as a successful leader. He’d engaged in so much coaching and leadership development. So many decades of experience under his belt. Yet here he was, holding back, not standing up for himself, not holding others to account, having zero boundaries for himself.
The Problem – Holding Back
“It’s difficult to find the courage to challenge. I’m attending to other peoples’ needs rather than my own. And I’m fed up with not expressing my view. In fact I feel scared to.”
This leader wasn’t a newbie. He had decades of experience leading teams in corporate, and then in this business before he became MD.
And yet wasn’t creating boundaries. Those he did create, he’d allow people to trample. He felt pushed around in the breeze.
He’d say yes to things he didn’t truly agree with, which meant he then wouldn’t do the work required of him, resulting in them getting frustrated with him, and him frustrated with himself.
There was this apathy which felt awful. He was allowing people to walk all over him and he wanted it to stop.
He invested in a 4-week Leadership Reset.
Result – Confident and Assertive
“When you told me what I came with it felt like a familiar narrative but I don’t feel it, I’m not troubled by it. In fact I’ve been feeling less affected by events that would have bothered me before.”
This is the consistent result of this work – within 4 weeks, the person they arrived as, has gone. They’ve dropped that sabotaging identity and feel like a different – better – person. You get to feel like yourself again.
Now, things that used to cause problems for this client didn’t carry any weight or move him into a low anymore.
He felt less impacted. Situations didn’t have the same sustained punch. He was just moving into practical solutions.
“I definitely feel clearer, less inhibited and have greater potential for achieving things in a lighter way.
I feel more confident and grounded. I’ve been more assertive and people have noticed. And there’s less rumination which means more space.”
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