The rules, they’re killing us

How the intellect is taking us away from clarity, brilliance and the perfect next step.

Image of traffic in Kathmandu
Image credit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Gy3kRVUvx0

My mum recently got back from a holiday in Nepal. She was telling me about the experience of crossing the road in Kathmandu. Two things struck her.

The first was that the drivers decide the lane system. With no markings on the road, no lane information signs, no overhead illumination in greens and reds about which lines are open and closed. The drivers just drive in a way that makes sense based on the volume of traffic. Six lanes heading into the city in the morning, just one heading out. The opposite in the evening. It just makes sense. And they don’t need a formal system to tell them to do this. It just works. They’re connected. They’re not in their heads. read more

Judgement Day

The events in Paris last week saw one of the most extreme forms of judgement possible.  People with a belief in something so strong that they chose to judge those who believed differently, and end their lives so they couldn’t believe it anymore.

There’s been enough coverage on this topic that I don’t want to use this post to explore it further.  But what I do want to talk about is the fact that we are surrounded by judgement all day every day and we don’t even notice it.

We judge things as good or bad, right or wrong, for pretty much every waking moment.

We judge others for having too much money, and for not having enough.

We judge others for being beautiful, and for not being beautiful enough.

We judge others for doing their job well, and for not doing it well enough.

And we judge ourselves for being ‘good enough’ or not.

So often we attach negative meaning, have negative beliefs, make negative judgements about people or situations.  And yet most of what we see of people is 10% of who they really are.  Most of who they are is beneath the surface, possibly so far down that they aren’t even aware of it themselves.

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” – Dalai Lama

Here are a few real life recent examples of how judgement of others affects how we feel and how we then behave…….

I read a Harvard Business Review email saying that managers who are morning people are more likely to believe someone’s work performance is below standard if that person’s requested, and works, a later working day – because they believe the person’s lazy. read more