Financial security. A healthy eating programme. Those sales numbers. Control. Meditation. A drink. To be right. That holiday. A promotion. This partner to love me. The kids to behave. Or all, or none, of the above?
To need: to require something because it is essential or very important rather than just desirable.
So what is an essential need? Really. At what point do we draw a line and say ‘that’s essential, this is desirable.’
Of course we don’t.
We move through life, listening to what others say we need. Or we hear what they say they need and then we want to emulate that so we try and get it too. Or maybe we reject it, not wanting to be seen to be like them.