What level are you working at to try and solve stressful thinking? Is it making the difference you hope? Is it adding in more to-do’s, should’s and complexity to life?
Over thinking leads to..
Inhibited cognitive function & IQ
To try and change we can work at the level of:
The immediate problem — work longer hours, trudge through the to-do list, have exasperated conversations with colleagues and bosses. Use caffeine to stay awake, grab quick-and-easy-processed-food, some alcohol at night to shut off & wind down.
The next problem down — the sleep — create the perfect sleep environment, have consistent bed time & wake up times, lavender, pillows, heavy blankets.
Or the next — the stress — walks, meditation, exercise, change jobs.
Or the next — the thoughts — switch the negative for the positive, recite mantras, practice helpful beliefs.
None right or wrong. It can make sense to do these things because it can seem really real that stressful thoughts need fixing and changing and getting rid of. They feel yucky. Why would we want them?read more
When we have multiple pulls on our time things can feel out of balance. It’s one of the main things clients come to me with — needing re-balance of one kind or another. And yet, each and every experience of ‘out of balance’ has the same origins. When we know that, balance gets a whole lot simpler.
I wrote recently about leadership and said I’d write a linked piece about balance because it’s such a common feature of experience and something that was more than a one-liner.
The out-of-balance problems I hear from clients tend to show up as:
I’m so busy managing the team I never get to stakeholder relationships
I don’t have time to think strategically because I’m so in the day to day
My days are full of meetings, when do I do my work?
I’m frantic trying to manage a job, family and house – and then there’s friends to keep in touch with too
I spend my time head-down in the business and don’t get to look up for inspiration
Which of these sound familiar?
Normally we identify what we believe to be the source of imbalance — it’s those meetings, those people, this responsibility — and then we look straight to tools practices and approaches to use to fix these broken aspects of our life. Once they’re behaving in the way we need them to, we’ll be OK.read more