First, some context and disclaimer stuff: I’m a working mum, I’m definitely not an employment law expert so apologies to anyone reading this who is. If you’re reading my blog for the first time, this isn’t my normal kind of content and you can read the other stuff I write here. For the purposes of this post I’m sticking with the stereotypical perspective of women as the main carers of kids, and who want to work part time to fulfil both roles.
How often have you seen or heard this?
They’re just no good at their job, I keep having to pick up the slack? I haven’t got time to do my own work because they’re incapable of doing their’s. If only they could sort it out we’d all be better off. I don’t even know why they’re still here – they don’t contribute anything.
Wow! What an amazing month April’s been for fabulous feelings and philosophies on feedback! 33 posts all together! Impressive stuff and a great wealth of insight has been created on a topic which is clearly an area of work that continues to need some attention so that we can improve.
Thank you to everyone who’s contributed. It’s only because of you that this curation is possible and able to benefit others with this same challenge.
I’m delighted to be hosting this piece for #FeedbackCarnival from Margaret Burnside. Margaret works as People Development Director at ERAS Ltd with a focus on developing leaders, both locally in East Anglia and nationally. Margaret has a passion for coaching and mentoring and here writes a practical guide to providing feedback to others in a way that is beneficial to the recipient.
“I’d like a Ferrari and a mansion without having to pay anything for them” was my son’s proclamation tonight which led on to his question of “why do we have money?”.
So I talked about how things evolved from bartering with goods, to coins and then the economy as we know it today (or at least in my simplistic understanding of it).
“Mummy am I Muslim or Hindu?”
“Neither darling, you don’t really have a religion.”
“So can I choose what I am?”
“Yes you can!”
“Oh good! That means I can marry Shey and be a Muslim. My teacher said that if one person doesn’t have a religion they can marry anyone and be the same as them.”
Welcome to the second of my Christmas reflection trio. Take 1 is here if you missed it. Today’s one is about the choice we have about how we see our competition.
Rivals – For Better or For Worse
“Nothing is ever done beautifully which is done in rivalship.” – John Ruskin
My kids are major rivals. In fact, to my son, pretty much everyone is a rival. His life is one big competition. And if he’s not winning, it’s not worth playing. A strong Achievement Drive it would be fair to say! And it makes for short family game playing experiences if it’s not going his way. But lucky him, he has me as his mum, and I’ve been telling him about the work of Timothy Gallwey.
“When your own life is threatened, your sense of empathy is blunted by a terrible, selfish hunger for survival”
Yann Martel, Life of Pi.
If you swap the word “life” for –
or “performance appraisal rating”
or “hierarchical position
or “share of the budget”
or “pay rise”…..
I care about people being at their best.
My business is about helping SME leaders be at their best so their teams and their business can be too.
So I spend a lot of time reading posts and articles about what makes a great or terrible leader. What 5 things a manager must do. What the secret ingredient is we’ve been missing all these years.
Final session for the day! Biba Binotti (Red Hat People) and Gillian Dore (Cisco)…..
Cisco have a PEER COACHING CULTURE – who, what and why?
Their definition (Robbins ’99) is what I know as ‘buddy coaching’ but with some added bits around solving workplace challenges together which almost makes it feel like it borders onto mentoring.