No man is an island

“Mummy am I Muslim or Hindu?”
“Neither darling, you don’t really have a religion.”
“So can I choose what I am?”
“Yes you can!”
“Oh good! That means I can marry Shey and be a Muslim. My teacher said that if one person doesn’t have a religion they can marry anyone and be the same as them.” read more

Judgement Day

The events in Paris last week saw one of the most extreme forms of judgement possible.  People with a belief in something so strong that they chose to judge those who believed differently, and end their lives so they couldn’t believe it anymore.

There’s been enough coverage on this topic that I don’t want to use this post to explore it further.  But what I do want to talk about is the fact that we are surrounded by judgement all day every day and we don’t even notice it. read more

Christmas Brain – Take 3

The final part in my trio of Christmas brain-related reflections. (If you missed the others, here’s Take 1 and Take 2). Today it’s about the love our brain has for filtering out what it sees as needless information.

Festive Filter

“I’m sorry for ignoring you but that’s all I can do.” – Taimoor Madni read more

Christmas Brain – take 2

Welcome to the second of my Christmas reflection trio. Take 1 is here if you missed it. Today’s one is about the choice we have about how we see our competition.

Rivals – For Better or For Worse

“Nothing is ever done beautifully which is done in rivalship.” – John Ruskin

My kids are major rivals. In fact, to my son, pretty much everyone is a rival. His life is one big competition. And if he’s not winning, it’s not worth playing. A strong Achievement Drive it would be fair to say!  And it makes for short family game playing experiences if it’s not going his way.  But lucky him, he has me as his mum, and I’ve been telling him about the work of Timothy Gallwey. read more

Christmas Brain – take 1

So how much have you slobbed out over the last couple of days? How many times over have you consumed your own body weight in delicious things? Whatever you’ve been up to, I hope it’s been fun and with people you care about, and I hope you’ve had the chance to switch off and let your mind wander. read more

Threats everywhere!

“When your own life is threatened, your sense of empathy is blunted by a terrible, selfish hunger for survival”
Yann Martel, Life of Pi.

If you swap the word “life” for –
“ego”
or “job”
or “performance appraisal rating”
or “hierarchical position
or “share of the budget”
or “pay rise”….. read more

#CIPD14 – Give & Take – A Revolutionary Approach to Success

The final session of CIPD14 is the keynote from Adam Grant about the world from the perspective of give and take.  He says that some people take, some match and some give without any expectation of return.  Here’s more of what he says….

Adam’s an Organisational Psychologist and is often asked to go in after members of exec have been fired.  He notices the paranoia in these places where people are convinced that someone is out to get them. read more

Did the parents leave yet?

So Richard Branson’s experimenting with Netflix’s ‘no holiday policy’ approach.

I love that he’s trying something different to see if it gets different results.

I wonder what different approaches people will take when putting it into practice –

1. Work constantly with no holiday (or just the statutory minimum) to avoid things falling apart, or to get that promotion, or both. read more

Childhood Truths

So does this ring any bells from childhood?

Child 1 – “You’re a big smelly poo”

Child 2 – [say this part in a sing-song ‘nah nah nah nah’ child’s voice for maximum effect] “What you say is what you are”

Child 1 – Urgh no fair!

But it occurred to me the kids are actually onto the truth here!  [Note my use of ‘the’ kids – you really have no evidence that it was my own kids having this high brow discussion during a boring, rainy half term!] read more