Racing with square wheels

I was with a Board team last week who were talking about change. How it takes courage and can be hard because we’re having to lose something of us to adopt something new or move to something different. This is true but only when we attach to our personal thoughts When we attach to our personal thoughts it’s like putting square wheels on a racing car. We clunk along. Sometimes stopping all together, unable to move forward. Certainly not able to quickly change direction when needed.  But we believe in these wheels, we created them. Even if “horrible” or “negative” there’s a familiarity about them that brings comfort. We know where we are. We’ve adapted ourselves to drive with these wheels, forgetting how things used to be before we had them. Then we start to consider maybe this isn’t ideal. Maybe I would benefit from a smoother ride. Normally we start working hard to change the wheels. Intellectually analysing how they were fitted, what they are made of. But some of the bolts seem stuck. Or maybe there’s a square wheel we subconsciously like the look of so we find a justifiable reason not to change it. Now we’re driving with 2 square and 2 round wheels. Better but not exactly a smooth ride. Then you meet someone who glides on round wheels. You’re fascinated & slightly freaked out by their difference. It reminds you of glimmers in your life when you’ve glided, when smooth wheels suddenly appeared and for that short while you enjoyed it! Thinking it must have been what you were doing at the time that created that feeling, you repeat the activity, repeating the external conditions to create the smooth-ride magic as often as you can. Maybe you didn’t realise that you brushed off the truth of what was going on because it seemed so simple and we all know simple doesn’t win kudos prizes. The truth is that round wheels are our natural state. Round wheels are what we are born with. We just acquired the square as we grew up & blindly followed the square-creating rules of the world. Once we really see the truth of how the square are created, moment-to-moment, and what they really mean, then our attachment to them drops away with a natural ease and we slip into the round. The natural place we fall back to. Our innate state of clarity, wisdom and wellbeing. From here we glide round the corners, speed along the straights and rediscover a life of richness and fulfilment. All the while connected to our innate brilliance. If you’re curious to learn more, this is what we’re going to be exploring through LearnConnctDo this year. The thread that’s going to weave through all the sessions. We’re starting on 14th March* with an introduction to the psychological understanding that underpins this smooth-wheel place. The Eventbrite will be up very soon on this page – if you don’t want to miss it jump on the mailing list by getting in touch with me here. As last year, all ticket profits will be going to Twenty:Twenty as we continue our partnership with this wonderful charity.  Thank you to PKF for continuing to host us so we can maximise how much we donate. *3-6pm at PKF Cooper Parry’s East Mids offices (near East Mids Airport).

Hear the emotional man

We in ‘civilised’ society talk of girls and women and their emotional ways

Yet I experience

Again and again

Young boys with strong, clear and overwhelming emotion

What happens as they grow?

Stop crying

Be a man

Grow up

Tears won’t solve it

The control of their uncontrollable helps us feel safe. We teach them control is the way. read more

#cipdldshow Blog Carnival – How to make every day a learning day

Welcome to the CIPD Learning & Development Show Blog Carnival Curation!!! Or CIPDLDSHOWBCC for short 😉

Back in March I invited people to share their thoughts about what helps us make every day a learning day – the theme of the L&D Show this year. As I sit here now and look at the bountiful array of pieces that have been written I feel huge appreciation for everyone who’s contributed and delighted by the serendipity of how they have all come together with – I guarantee! – no coordination of content from me. read more

#CIPDOD15 Delivering and Embedding Organisational Transformation

This is Transport for London with Alexandra Bode-Tunji who’s Programme Lead Skills & Capabilities.  It’s going to look at some of the obstacles, engaging sponsors, stakeholders and employees, and the transition process.

Didn’t know TFL was the 7th most recognised brand!

Context for change – rising customer expectations, pressure on costs, new technology and changes in regulatory.  This will be a familiar story in many organisations – private and public.  And the change to an improved experience at lower cost had to be done while taking employees on the journey. read more

Leader? What about the followers?

I care about people being at their best.

My business is about helping SME leaders be at their best so their teams and their business can be too.

So I spend a lot of time reading posts and articles about what makes a great or terrible leader. What 5 things a manager must do. What the secret ingredient is we’ve been missing all these years. read more

Talking the talk…

First day of the CIPD L&D today, 30th April, which I feel privileged to have been able to attend as a tweeter and blogger.

I’ve listened to sessions on –
Cultivating trustworthy leaders
MOOCs
Creating a manager-led coaching culture
Developing resilient yet agile leaders

And I’m reflecting on what I’ve heard. read more