This is a post I’ve been going to write for a while – in fact nearly two years! I’ve delayed writing it for fear of offending people but after a bit of tweet chat a while back I decided to step into the #ldbravery space and share my thoughts. Plus it’s nearly Christmas so it seems relevant!!
Think of yourself at work and how it feels right now.
If you imagine you’re in a box at work, what would that box be like?
Are you in a roomy box with space to spread yourself out and change position?
Are you cramped in a box that you feel you could burst out of any minute?
Do you remember once feeling like you could burst out and now you feel like you’ve shrunk to fit inside?
I came across this post on Twitter today and it was the motivation I needed to blog about something that’s been in my mind for a few weeks.
I agree with the fundamental premise of this post: if you give people a more impressive job title they’ll feel more important and do a better job for you. (What I agree with less is the dubiously manipulative use of this knowledge with the sole purpose of getting more out of people. Thanks Phil Willcox for highlighting this.)
First, some context and disclaimer stuff: I’m a working mum, I’m definitely not an employment law expert so apologies to anyone reading this who is. If you’re reading my blog for the first time, this isn’t my normal kind of content and you can read the other stuff I write here. For the purposes of this post I’m sticking with the stereotypical perspective of women as the main carers of kids, and who want to work part time to fulfil both roles.
How often have you seen or heard this?
They’re just no good at their job, I keep having to pick up the slack? I haven’t got time to do my own work because they’re incapable of doing their’s. If only they could sort it out we’d all be better off. I don’t even know why they’re still here – they don’t contribute anything.
A few weeks back I was feeling frustrated. I’m an independent person with a high achievement drive and these characteristics, which can be strengths, were holding me back – “I wish I could go to that event – but I can’t because I’ve been away quite alot recently and the kids need me here”….”I wish I could get half an hour to catch up on SoMe in the morning – but I can’t because I need to do breakfast and get the kids ready”…..”I wish I could exercise more – but I can’t because by the time I’ve got the kids to bed, had some tea, done some work or housework, there’s no time….” and so on.
Wow! What an amazing month April’s been for fabulous feelings and philosophies on feedback! 33 posts all together! Impressive stuff and a great wealth of insight has been created on a topic which is clearly an area of work that continues to need some attention so that we can improve.
Thank you to everyone who’s contributed. It’s only because of you that this curation is possible and able to benefit others with this same challenge.
I started writing a post on feedback the other week because it’s something that comes back again and again as something we all struggle to do. Even if we’re giving feedback about how great something’s been we can still feel awkward and not deliver it well – is that a British thing? And then there’s the feedback when we’ve spotted something that, if changed, could help someone improve in some way. The supposed ‘negative’ feedback.
In a crisis we come together.
While standing on the train station this morning, waiting for the fast train to London with all the regular commuters, the silence was deafening. Everybody was so separate. So isolated. So absorbed in their own world.
It felt desperately alien to me and I wanted to talk to someone – anyone – to create some human connection.