It’s not that unusual for people to cry when they work with me. Stopping the daily busy-ness and task-focused activities to pause, reflect and to think well can often bring things to the surface that people hadn’t noticed were there. Our always-on and busy lives lead us to sweep things under the carpet and carry on with an “it’s all fine” and “I’m fine” face on. Sometimes a client’s upset is “normal level” upset, sometimes it’s a symptom of medically-recognisable anxiety for which they need different help than I can provide. And when I say anxiety, don’t picture “jibbering mess, barely able to function”. Instead picture the reality which is genuinely what’s in front of me – capable, confident leaders who are very skilled at what they do and who are able to hide their anxious turmoil REALLY well.
A week ago on 9th March was the latest Learn > Connect > Do : an event held quarterly in Leicester which is for people professionals who care about making work better through doing great people stuff. These are also people who care about giving back while they learn and I’m delighted that we raised a fantastic £130 for Twenty:Twenty through ticket sales. This will enable a young person to get support with transport costs to get to their local centre to learn, or to go for a day out to celebrate their learning successes! And even more than that, with the professional backgrounds we have there are so many other ways delegates can get involved and support these young people into jobs they might never have considered an option before.
“A familiar tale; times are tough,
cut the costs or make the sales.
New systems and tech are set to help
“Reduce the work and boost results”
And of course some people have to go
Middle management, on the whole
Leaving gaping gaps in the work that was
Some that moves up but mostly down.
And all the while the tension pulls:
Last week at the CIPD Learning & Development Show I attended one of the free exhibition sessions with David Pearl of Street Wisdom.
Street Wisdom is an amazing way of using your surroundings to help you answer a question you hold. Getting out into the streets either somewhere you know, or somewhere new, looking up, paying attention, and seeing what thoughts appear from what your attention is drawn to.
I’ve been really enjoying having some space to blog recently and I’ve written for a couple of people I guest blog for.
This one for The HR Director magazine which is about how we can get stuck in our emotions and thoughts, and how we can move out of that place.
And this one (the one I mis-posted a draft of the other week!) for Bray and Bray Solicitors about the challenging world of workplace relationships, and shifting those from the playground to an adult world.
How often have you seen or heard this?
They’re just no good at their job, I keep having to pick up the slack? I haven’t got time to do my own work because they’re incapable of doing their’s. If only they could sort it out we’d all be better off. I don’t even know why they’re still here – they don’t contribute anything.
I’m delighted to be hosting this piece for #FeedbackCarnival from Margaret Burnside. Margaret works as People Development Director at ERAS Ltd with a focus on developing leaders, both locally in East Anglia and nationally. Margaret has a passion for coaching and mentoring and here writes a practical guide to providing feedback to others in a way that is beneficial to the recipient.
As part of my #FeedbackCarnival I’m delighted to host this piece from Peter Cook. Peter isn’t your average leadership and OD professional / speaker / author given that he’s also a highly respected member of the music scene and brings those music skills and experience into his work. Here Peter shares three key aspects to helping feedback happen all the time…..
In a crisis we come together.
While standing on the train station this morning, waiting for the fast train to London with all the regular commuters, the silence was deafening. Everybody was so separate. So isolated. So absorbed in their own world.
It felt desperately alien to me and I wanted to talk to someone – anyone – to create some human connection.
The final part in my trio of Christmas brain-related reflections. (If you missed the others, here’s Take 1 and Take 2). Today it’s about the love our brain has for filtering out what it sees as needless information.
“I’m sorry for ignoring you but that’s all I can do.” – Taimoor Madni